Boundaries

Boundaries and Borders and Limits are a fundamental feature of our world. You are an individual because you have boundaries. You are you! The space between you and someone else is one important thing that defines you.

There are also inner boundaries. The structures within you also define you. The relative quantities of separate qualities within you describe your personality. Are you very energetic? Are you strong? fast? Are you sensual? Efficient? Are you possessive or generous? Do you appreciate being smart? What kinds of smarts do you have? How do you use your intelligence? Do you seek to learn what is true? Can you teach others and share what you know? Are you friendly? Are you emotionally pleasant or rough? Can you enjoy life? Can you enjoy your relationships with others? Do your fears rule you without reason, terrorizing yourself and others? Alternatively, are your fears more reasonable? Do they keep you safe by guiding you away from bad things? How much emotion do you feel, and how much do you express?

Structure and limits are of fundamental importance for you to be you and not someone else. How well do you know your structure and your limits? How well do you work within your limits? Do you work to know your own inner world? Do you gradually expand your borders, or do you try to ignore them? Do you understand and respect other people's boundaries and borders, or do you disregard them?

Mastery of anything in life is only possible because there are boundaries, structure and limits. Mastery over your own life is only possible when you understand your structures and limits well. Borders are fundamentally important for us to make our lives work.

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"Psychological integration is important."
What do you think of that statement?

An important feature of your inner structure is communication and connections. How well connected are you within yourself? How well do your various desires communicate with each other? Does your proverbial "right side know what your left is doing"? Can you understand your own behaviors well? This is a very important skill.
• When people have regions, voices and actions that are not well connected inside, they may say one thing, do another, and then say something else that may contradict what they said before, and they may not even know that they do this! When people are in this condition they seem to be programmed or unreasonable. They don't seem to be aware that what they are doing doesn't make sense.
• On the other hand, when people are well connected inside, they coordinate between their various voices and desires. They organize themselves for consistency, and seem to be highly aware and awake. They are reasonable and understandable.

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